Men are particularly vulnerable to suicide and are three and a half times more likely than women to end their own lives.
A recent study of Australian men has found that those who were sexually abused as children are 10 times more likely than women to contemplate taking their own lives; many of these men had not been clinically diagnosed as depressed. While gender and mental health problems are the most important risk factors for contemplating suicide, it is increasingly acknowledged that traumatic experiences such as childhood sexual abuse may be a significant risk factor.
Childhood sexual abuse of men or women has monumental consequences for those involved AND for extended family and society in general. Even the PERCEPTION of sexual abuse [in false memories or erroneous perceptions of actual events] is enough in many individuals to trigger long-term traumatic emotional harm eventually resulting in suicidal thoughts and plans, occasionally ending in suicide.
Dr Patrick O’Leary and Professor Nick Gould of the University of Bath’s Department of Social & Policy Sciences conducted a series of surveys and face-to-face interviews with men in a study funded by the University of South Australia. Results were published online in the peer-reviewed British Journal of Social Work.
Dr O’Leary said: “Childhood sexual abuse is an under-recognized problem in men – most of the studies exploring the link with suicide have been in women. Men are particularly vulnerable because they don’t like to talk to others about their problems. It’s difficult for anyone to come to terms with traumatic experiences such as childhood sexual abuse, but for men the stigma is worse because they don’t tend to confide in their friends as much.
While it’s important to be very precise about your goals, it’s far more important to find REASONS WHY those goals are important to you.
Maybe you’ve read piles and piles of books and taken course upon course on how to set and achieve goals. While it’s important to be very precise about your goals, it’s far more important to find REASONS WHY those goals are important to you.
The WHY is your motivation. Motivation is the gas to drive you to your goal. Without motivation, there is insufficient fuel to achieve. EVERYTHING you have ever achieved, you achieved for a REASON – a WHY.
You see, objects do not motivate – emotion about an object can. A new car may seem like a great goal, but if you have no place to go, nobody to see, and nothing to do IN the car, you may not have sufficient motivation to achieve it.
Jump-start your goals with the 5-yrs-from-now Exercise.
My friend, Noel, from Ireland, asked how he could better achieve his goals. Years ago, I borrowed ideas from Richard Bandler and others to create an exercise that helped one company sales team achieve their goals in record time and helped a group of women lose unwanted pounds and keep them off. Perhaps it will work for you, too.
First, I recommend Win Wenger’s Imagestreaming, perhaps the best exercise I’ve ever seen for breaking up writer’s block, clearing the mind for creative thought, and generally improving creativity.
Then the NLP Outcome frame offers a great outline for focusing the mind, clarifying goals, and creating a track on which to run. It also provides invaluable instruction on HOW to set achievable goals.
To jump-start your journey to goal achievement, I recommend the “5-years-from-now Exercise.” It’s amazingly easy to do and will provide you with motivation AND information necessary to achieve your goal – and do it all in minutes. I think it’s best done with a trained NLP professional to assist you, but you can get great results yourself by following the directions in this post. Here’s how:
The amygdala and hippocampus, representing the Why and How aspects, go together to make a feeling real.
What you believe about an emotion makes a difference in how you feel it. According to research on brain functioning and emotion, neurons in the hippocampus are active when we feel an emotion. Simultaneously, neurons in the amygdala activate to the same emotion according to our judgment of the emotion. For example, when shown an angry face, the hippocampus will likely activate its anger reaction state, whereas the amygdala may fire its anxiety state because there is a fear belief associated with the anger emotion. This transforms the pure anger emotion into a sort of hybrid of fear and anger.
“You are never angry for the reason you think you are.” (Vanzant)
How about studying RET then?
Consider this – according to a review of 2,563 study abstracts by RTI-UNC Evidence-based Practice Center published online by the American Journal of Preventive Medicine, there is little scientific evidence that current treatments for PTSD are effective.
“Clinicians and patients have to be aware that while there are many treatments offered for the prevention of PTSD, many lack sufficient scientific evidence. Without sound studies, there is great uncertainty whether traumatized people actually receive the best care.” (Gartlehner)
The authors suggest much more evidence-based research on a wider variety of interventions including alternative approaches. Rapid Eye Technology (RET), a process specifically intended for addressing PTSD and other types of stress, would be an ideal candidate for such research, I figure.
So – how about studying RET then?