What Are You Afraid Of?

Some years ago, my wife and I were invited to do a fire walk. We built a BIG fire – over 8 feet tall and 20 feet across we stacked the wood – then burned it down to a 15 foot round bed of hot coals. It was so hot in fact that we burned our faces from several feet back.

Sure it’s possible to walk on coals – lots of people have done it before and not gotten so much as an ouch of a burn. But I had not done it before – and even after the first person walked across – and even though we knew scientifically and spiritually that it was possible – the HEAT and FIRE coupled with our own past experiences with fire – I had been burned badly on my feet in a fire in the garage in our old house – confronted us with the real possibility of serious injury.

FIRE BURNS FLESH!!! My body knows it – which is why I don’t put my hand on the hot stove on purpose. My body knows about heat and knows how to react to it – mostly by AVOIDING IT.

I don’t care how much you believe you can do it – when you stand at the precipice and your face and arms are burning from the heat – you are face to face with one of the greatest inbred fears of animal-kind – the fear of fire – ala Frankenstein’s monster. All animals are afraid of fire – including humans. Fire is TERRIFYING.

What would it take to make me step from the cool grass onto the superheated hot coals?

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Originally posted 2007-09-04 20:12:19. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Symptoms of the Inner Peace Illness: Do you have it?

Warning Signs: (Things to watch out for)

1. A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than on fears based on past experience
2. An unmistakable ability to enjoy the moment
3. A loss of interest in judging other people
4. A loss of interest in judging self
5. A loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others
6. An inability to worry (this is a very serious symptom!)
7. The rare disease of putting things in perspective instead of seeing everything as black and white all or nothing thinking.
8. A loss of the ability to “should” on yourself or others. (This one you really SHOULD watch out for)
9. Actually seeing how you can benefit from criticism in some way, without taking it personal.
10. A dropping of all the stories you tell for why you can’t have inner peace right now.
11. Frequent overwhelming episodes of appreciation
12. Frequent acts of smiling
13. An increasing tendency to let things happen rather than to make them happen
14. An increased susceptibility to the love extended by others as well as the uncontrollable urge to extend it.

Originally posted 2007-01-14 18:12:03. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Success Shortcut

Maybe you’ve read piles and piles of books and taken course upon course on how to set and achieve goals. While it’s important to be very precise about your goals, it’s far more important to find REASONS WHY those goals are important to you.

The WHY is your motivation. Motivation is the gas to drive you to your goal. Without motivation, there is insufficient fuel to achieve. EVERYTHING you have ever achieved, you achieved for a REASON – a WHY.

You see, objects do not motivate – emotion about an object can. A new car may seem like a great goal, but if you have no place to go, nobody to see, and nothing to do IN the car, you may not have sufficient motivation to achieve it.

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Originally posted 2010-04-21 10:31:05. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Gifts from Our Ancestors

In the course of evolution, people with certain genes fared better than others – and because they survived, they passed on their genes, making the general population more like them. For example, Europeans who came into contact with and yet survived the great plague did so because they had a genetic advantage over their neighbors. Because more of them survived to pass on their genes, their descendants tend to show that same genetic factor.

Unfortunately, a genetic advantage in one era or age (like the Ice Age) may be a killer in another (like now). More body fat in an Ice Age man made him more likely to pass on his genes; whereas today it could prevent him from doing so.

What genetic factors are a problem in your life? Do you have a predisposition for certain diseases or conditions (physically and psychologically)? How can you know which conditions or diseases are genetically affecting you? How can you make a change that has a higher probability of success on a genetic level – if it is possible at all?

There is a fundamental interaction between genetics and how our brains process the genetic information. We create and maintain brain circuitry based on a genetic blueprint modified by experience/learning (environmental factors). It’s a delicate balance between nature and nurture. Neither genetics nor conditioning completely rule our life experience – rather, we experience the result of an interweaving between the two – kind of like the weaving of DNA.

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Originally posted 2007-12-27 00:20:51. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Fantasy in Marriage

'Happy ever after' is an unrealistic yet useful fantasy that can motivate us to connect with another.

I’ve met people who think their mate is their “soulmate” – a rather nebulous and undefined term that invites unrealistic fantasy. Unrealistic fantasy is a perfect setup for disappointment. Disappointment is one of those emotions that triggers a plethora of other emotions, including guilt, anger, grief, and resentment.

I have lots of fantasies – from dreams of the perfect garden to hopes of winning the lottery. Some fantasies are completely impossible yet can motivate me to connect with another in a meaningful way. These are useful fantasies – yet fantasies nevertheless. Continue reading

Originally posted 2014-08-17 10:00:09. Republished by Blog Post Promoter