Reach for the Sun, Partner!

Reach for the Sun to Feel Better

Reach for the Sun to Feel Better.

Researchers at the Max Planck Institute have discovered that when you are involved in movements in an upward direction you are more likely to have positive emotions and thoughts; and conversely, working in a downward direction tends to elicit more negative emotions and thoughts – metaphoric movements that match our language, feeling “up” or feeling “down.”

“These [study] data suggest that spatial metaphors for emotion aren’t just in language,” researcher Daniel Casasanto says, “linguistic metaphors correspond to mental metaphors, and activating the mental metaphor ‘good is up’ can cause us to think happier thoughts.”

I’m reminded of the Yogic Sun Salutation exercise in which one stretches one’s arms upward toward the sun as far as he/she can reach in a gesture of acknowledgement of the sun. The movement is also used to elevate mood and elicit more positive emotions during times of depression.

Perhaps one way to beat depression is to simply salute the heavens by reaching up as far as you can often during the day – while simultaneously elevating the thoughts and emotions. It’s certainly worth a trial run, I figure.

Study Source: Daniel Casasanto, Ton Dijkstra, Max-Planck-Gesellschaft

First Impressions Rule

When faced with making a first impression, make it count! Please!

When faced with making a first impression, make it count! Please!

“Imagine you have a new colleague at work and your impression of that person is not very favorable. A few weeks later, you meet your colleague at a party and you realize he is actually a very nice guy. Although you know your first impression was wrong, your gut response to your new colleague will be influenced by your new experience only in contexts that are similar to the party. However, your first impression will still dominate in all other contexts.” – Bertram Gawronski, Canada Research Chair at The University of Western Ontario

First impressions are difficult to overcome – ‘you never get a second chance to make a first impression’.  A study reported in Journal of Experimental Psychology, bears this out. They were able to scientifically demonstrate this thinking error. They were able to show rather conclusively that a first impression tends to apply to all contexts (the rule) whereas contradictory evidence tends to apply only to certain contexts (exceptions to the rule).

First impressions can be changed. It’s not easy, though:

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Simple Awareness

For just a moment, sipping on a cuppa staring out the window, I noticed!

For just a moment, sipping on a cuppa staring out the window, I noticed!

I was just standing there with coffee cup in hand staring out the window at the back yard – a behavior I’ve practiced thousands of times over many years. Suddenly and without warning, my mind focused on the amazing feat I was performing. I was aware that I was paying attention to life as it was occurring.

In all the universe, as far as I know, there is only one consciousness that I can identify as ME, experiencing what I am experiencing.

For a VERY short number of years, my life will have flashed upon the stage and gone. In geological time scales, I hardly exist at all – micro-time in comparison. Yet in that relative instant of time, everything that ever was or ever will be exists for me.

During my instant of time, I enjoy relationships with so many wonderful people I care about so deeply; I breathe, see, feel, move, emote, and so much more; I feel so grateful to be alive, to have experiences, to relate to others, and to enjoy some awareness now and then. It may be only a tiny instant in time, but it is everything – 100% of all time – to me.

For just a moment, sipping on a cuppa staring out the window, I noticed!

I’m still awed by it.

Strengthening Families

Reflecting back on what might have happened leads to increased individual commitment to the group.

Reflecting back on what might have happened leads to increased individual commitment to the group.

Researchers from the Kellogg School of Management at Northwestern University and the Haas School of Business at the University of California, Berkeley have discovered that building a more committed workforce can be as simple as asking employees to reflect on their company’s history.

“Institutions that can communicate a compelling historical narrative often inspire a special kind of commitment among employees. It is this dedication that directly affects a company’s success and is critical to creating a strong corporate legacy.” (Galinsky).

Could the same be applied to families? Keep reading for my take on this phenomenon.

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Seven Stages of Projection to Celebration

Why leave your happiness up to someone else when you can account for it yourself?

Why leave your happiness up to someone else when you can account for it yourself?

Sometimes we get caught up in the blame game. We are so sure that it is someone else’s fault that we are poor, or angry, or left out, or disrespected, or unappreciated, or ugly, or fat, or clumsy, or afraid – we are the victim of somebody else’s bad behavior. Because we are the victim of somebody else’s actions, someone else’s mistakes, we are helpless to change our circumstance and must take what comes our way.

Blaming makes us feel better temporarily, but somehow, blaming others never really satisfies us for long because blaming others never brings about a change of condition. After a while, we grow accustomed and maybe even addicted to the blame game.

You can only change that which you own. So long as you give your power for change to another through blame, you are powerless to effect change. You will continue to be the victim of others to whom you have given your power.

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