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7 Simple Steps to Problem Solved

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7 simple steps to problem solved!

7 simple steps to problem solved!

Here is a simple NLP exercise based on the work of Robert Dilts you can do yourself or with another to assist you in problem solving. Making use of cause and effect, you introduce an unknown (for now) resource into the equation that can help you get past your blocks to solving your own problem.

Exercise

Start with 5 sheets of paper. Write one of the following words on each sheet – Symptom, Cause, Outcome, Resource, Effect. These are your 5 anchors.

- Symptom means the set(s) of present behaviors or feelings that reflect the problem.
- Cause means the cause of the problem, as you think it is/was.
- Outcome is the outcome that you want/will have when this is no longer a problem.
- Resource is the resource (what it will take to correct the problem) that escapes you, for now.
- Effect is the effect that the change will have on you.

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Taking Appropriate Action Gets Results

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Cause-effect relationship #1 - because you have come this far in life, you can achieve ANYTHING - poverty or riches, heavy or light, health or illness, whatever you truly wanted you have achieved.

Cause-effect relationship #1 – because you have come this far in life, you can achieve ANYTHING – poverty or riches, heavy or light, health or illness, whatever you truly wanted you have achieved.

Maybe you made some new year resolutions – expressing ways in which you would like to see your life change for the better. Maybe this will be the year you quit smoking, or get that raise, or lose that weight. Whatever it is, your first action is to NAME the change you want to make. This is the action part of the manifestation formula. You have done this part so often that you maybe now take it for granted – meaning you have become oblivious to it.

You are already taking action on what it is you really want – it’s automatic – you do it unconsciously. Based on your beliefs, you take action that is appropriate with what you accept as true – your beliefs. You don’t even have to think about or plan anything – you do it automatically. You don’t have to take specific action – just recognize that you already are [taking action].

Why, then, do you not get what you want? The truth is – you mostly DO get what you want (or at least are satisfied with). You just don’t recognize it – because you are so used to getting what you want from life.

If you continue to act (behaving) as you have acted in the past – based on what you believed to be true in the past – you will tend to continue to get what you have always gotten in the past. You’ll continue to take the appropriate action to achieve whatever it is that you have gotten in the past – you do those actions so well  by now that you are unconscious of them – you’re a master at doing whatever it is that you do to achieve what you are currently experiencing. How about that, boys and girls?!

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10 Cognitive Thinking Errors

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One of 10 Cognitive Thinking Errors?

One of 10 Cognitive Thinking Errors?

And what to do about them. Based on the work of Aaron Beck and others, in Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy, David Burns outlines 10 common mistakes in thinking, which he calls cognitive distortions.

  1. ALL-OR-NOTHING THINKING – Also called Black and White Thinking – Thinking of things in absolute terms, like “always”, “every” or “never”. For example, if your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure. Few aspects of human behavior are so absolute. Nothing is 100%. No one is all bad, or all good, we all have grades. To beat this cognitive distortion:
    • Ask yourself, “Has there ever been a time when it was NOT that way?” (all or nothing thinking does not allow exceptions so if even one exception can be found, it’s no longer “all” or “nothing”)
    • Ask yourself, “Never?” or “Always?” (depending upon what you are thinking)
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Memory Restructuring

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Research is showing that sleep seems to reorganize memories, picking out the emotional details and reconfiguring the memories.

Research is showing that sleep seems to reorganize memories, picking out the emotional details and reconfiguring the memories.

“Sleep is making memories stronger,” says Jessica D. Payne of the University of Notre Dame. “It also seems to be doing something which I think is so much more interesting, and that is reorganizing and restructuring memories.”

Wait a minute! Did she just say what I think I heard her say? That memories are “reorganized” and “restructured”? And here I thought memories were true and accurate recordings of events! Ok, if you’re a long-time reader you know I’ve written about false memory syndrome before; and this is yet another study confirming my belief that memories are far from accurate.

Knowing that memories are fallible and subject to errors, maybe I can reconfirm that memories may be manipulated – molded to help support how I want to feel today. Remember that someone who did you wrong? Yeah? Well, maybe you can change the details of your memories of that person to support a new you – perhaps rehearsing the memory with you WINNING instead of coming out the victim. Especially, say the study authors, sleeping on a memory can change it – so why not reconsider your memories of the day just as you’re drifting off to sleep? Reconsider in a way that supports a stronger emotional you. It’s called reframing – or “spinning” memories. If politicians can get away with it, why not me, too?!

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What I Know for Sure

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Wrong conclusions can be funny - or disastrous!

Wrong conclusions can be funny - or disastrous!

Sometimes I really believe I know what I’m talking about. So sure am I that what I am saying is the truth that I will insist that my audience believe it, too. I’ll go on a crusade. That’s when the real comedy begins.

”The people with the most ridiculous ideas are always the people who are most certain of them.” — [Bill] Maher’s Certainty Principle

I especially get a giggle out of my conclusions – you know, those times when I think I can boil down all the evidence into a single reasonable interpretation. And, of course, once a final interpretation is arrived at, appropriate action must follow. What happens when my interpretation of the evidence is incorrect? It’s a pretty good bet my “appropriate” action will be askew, too. Wrong conclusions can be the cause of comedy or disaster.

The immensity of the universe and the eons of time are so far outside my limited comprehension that I can’t possibly say with any certainty, for example, that other life exists or doesn’t “out there”.  But for years I stated as a matter of fact that there is a God. How can I possibly know the unknowable? Thinking errors, that’s how!

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