What I Know for Sure

Wrong conclusions can be funny - or disastrous!

Wrong conclusions can be funny - or disastrous!

Sometimes I really believe I know what I’m talking about. So sure am I that what I am saying is the truth that I will insist that my audience believe it, too. I’ll go on a crusade. That’s when the real comedy begins.

”The people with the most ridiculous ideas are always the people who are most certain of them.” — [Bill] Maher’s Certainty Principle

I especially get a giggle out of my conclusions – you know, those times when I think I can boil down all the evidence into a single reasonable interpretation. And, of course, once a final interpretation is arrived at, appropriate action must follow. What happens when my interpretation of the evidence is incorrect? It’s a pretty good bet my “appropriate” action will be askew, too. Wrong conclusions can be the cause of comedy or disaster.

The immensity of the universe and the eons of time are so far outside my limited comprehension that I can’t possibly say with any certainty, for example, that other life exists or doesn’t “out there”.  But for years I stated as a matter of fact that there is a God. How can I possibly know the unknowable? Thinking errors, that’s how!

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Deflating Unwanted Memories

Take the emotional sting out of certain memories with this simple NLP technique:

  1. Turn your memory into a flat 2D image – like a picture in a book. Make it black and white. Put a picture frame around it. Hang it on the wall. Why not hang it upside down? Or at a silly angle? What would it look like if it were all in cartoon?
  2. In your mind, play some silly music. Change the voices into Donald Duck, or some other amusing voice, until it makes you laugh or starts to tickle your funny bone.
  3. Feel how flat you have made the memory now.
  4. Lastly, make a new picture of how you want to be/feel and over impose this new wonderful you in front of the picture of you smiling.

Don’t Stop?

It takes more energy to stop a thought than to change it.

It takes more energy to stop a thought than to change it.

Thinking, that is! A study out of Case Western Reserve University shows that it takes more energy to stop a thought than to change it. No wonder it’s so hard to stop smoking or stop berating yourself or stop that tune that got stuck in your head. It just takes too much energy!

Some years ago, I underwent a year of intensive thought transformation in which a group of us focused attention on catching each other or sometimes even catch ourselves saying the “wrong” things – things that detracted us from our goals. “Try” was on the taboo list of words for obvious reasons – it holds a built-in failure. So, each time we’d hear one of us say the word, “try”, we’d say, “Cancel that!” The process seemed horribly difficult as we were catching each other often over that year. In the end, however, the goal was attained and my speech cleared up so much.

I wonder if we were unintentionally making it harder on ourselves by canceling (stopping) our thoughts instead of reframing them – sort of like nudging an asteroid instead of hitting it head-on.

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The Scotoma Solution

A scotoma is a mental situation in which one locks on to one idea and excludes all others – known as the “lock on lock out” principle. We all do it – it’s our human way of avoiding overwhelm when faced with too many choices. However, a scotoma can get you into trouble as we shall explore here.

SpongebobIn a Spongebob Squarepants cartoon, Spongebob gets up one morning and thinks he’ll create a fantastic dessert for himself. Unfortunately, his choice of ingredients cause him to have horrific halitosis (bad breath). Spongebob proceeds to go outside, where he meets several people, all of whom scream and run away from him as soon as he opens his mouth and says, “Hello.”

His conclusion – “I must be terribly ugly!”
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